EVP - the fallout from "if you just try hard enough..." doesn't stop at some people. It can be destructive to most people. Let's face it - there's not much room at the top and few of us are fit to get there and if otherwise, why isn't the top spacious and we are not all there? We wanted, we tried, we bought the DVDs! Sparkie - I like you - whoever might be crazy *#) , but most of us lack the potential to be violin virtuosos, Nobel prize winners, chess masters and, dare I say, equestrian Olympians? When aspirations exceed limitations we are not only indulging in delusional thinking, we make ourselves miserable by setting up for failure. The 700 Habits of Highly Ineffective People has some great advice, ie "there is a fundamental problem with following your dreams: dreams are not real." Most of us would be happier if we avoided self-help gurus but aimed at tiny achievable goals. Then raise the bar a little each time you succeed. Don't take this to heart anyone, but I kind of like the Quentin Crisp quote: "If at first you don't succeed, failure may be more your style." Smash & Delrae my mirror cracks up.